Elevator speech

What’s your elevator speech?

Do you have an elevator pitch?

I see the deer in the headlights look on your face and the “HUH?” coming out of your mouth.  Let me explain what it is and why you need one.

An elevator speech is a very short 30 second version of who you are and what you are all about.  It’s called an elevator speech because you only have the time it takes to get from the lobby to the floor selected to introduce yourself.  It’s short, meaningful, interesting, and all about YOU.  It’s how you respond when someone asks “what do you do?”.  It’s the summary that goes on your LinkedIn profile and it goes on your resume too.  It’s your personal brand.

And yes, you need one!

It should be true and compelling.  You need to figure out the point you’re trying to make, then tailor it to be concise and clear.  The person to which you’re speaking needs to be able to get your point or career without much thought.  It needs to be easily understood by people that DON’T know you.

You will use the summary you create over and over again.  You might need to adapt it for an interview or on your resume to more closely match something on a job description. The key message about you doesn’t change, just a few points to match the job application.

Practice your elevator speech in the mirror, get comfortable with saying it out loud so it comes naturally.  Make eye contact, be enthusiastic in your delivery, speak with authority and passion about who you are and where you want to go.  Make a believer out of everyone you meet.  They may even remember you when an opening comes up in their place of business!

As inspiration, here’s mine:  I actually have 35 years of IT as my background, but switched careers a few years ago, I’m now a certified coach.  I do workshops for organizations or work with individual clients to help them reach whatever professional or personal goals they want to achieve.  Together we figure out what’s holding them back from success, fulfillment, and growth.  It’s just awesome when they get that aha moment and begin to think differently!  I help my clients thrive and I love what I do.

I’m passionate when I deliver that message and I do it often.  It’s always that message but sometimes reworded depending on how it comes into the conversation.

At this point you’re nodding your head and saying “hmmm, what’s my elevator speech?”.

Get cracking and write it now.

It could land you the job you didn’t even know about!

Job satisfaction

How’s your Job Satisfaction?

Job satisfaction doesn’t just come from employing your skills well, you need to be applying your most enjoyable skills most of the time. Here’s how to identify them:

  • List the jobs or roles you liked the most over your entire work career;
  • Now list what you liked about each role;
  • Now list why you liked the role and/or what was the accomplishment that you enjoyed?

For example:  my favorite role was as an International Operations Director.  I was responsible for all non US IT Operations personnel.

  • What I liked the most: Travel, learning new cultures, team building and interactions with the people.
  • Why: I realized I enjoyed the coaching and mentoring, which is what was needed most in that particular role.
  • The accomplishment: I helped create a stronger, better operating team with greater communications and camaraderie throughout the IT organization.

That’s how I ended up leaving IT and moving into a Coaching career.  What I enjoyed most was working with people and helping them, not necessarily the IT side of bits and bytes.

What does this tell you?

Just because you’re not happy with what you’re doing where you are now doesn’t mean you ditch your current career; it does mean you need to figure out why and, maybe, do it differently.  For example, you’re an attorney working for a large firm and realize you haven’t been happy with what you’re doing for a while.  Maybe it’s where you’re working or you’re feeling lost in the crowd (not able to stand out) or the type of work is uninteresting or unfulfilling.  But if you could be a corporate legal council for a small business that produces something you’re interested in, that may make all the difference in the world.

So think about it.  What would keep you engaged and passionate?

If it’s the right career – wrong organization: What changes do you need to make to feel engaged within your job again?  Should you stay where you are or are the changes needed so great that you have to leave?

If it’s the wrong career: What skills do you have that are transferable to another occupation?  Do you need to go back to school?  How about certifications?  Can you move to another position within the current organization?

Lot’s of questions that only you can answer.  You may need help putting it all together or clearly identifying your strengths, likes, and dislikes.  A Career Coach can be that help, but the answers still come from you!

Change is scary, but being unhappy at work is way worse!

Making a decision one way or another about your career will take a weight off your shoulders you may not even realize you have.  Once you accept your decision and create a clear path forward you’ll be happier, more engaged, and ultimately more successful.

I offer a free consultation to explore your goals and determine if I can assist you with accomplishing them.  Click here to book your free 30 minutes.

Say no

Compromised Values

Have you ever worked in an organization where you were asked to do something you just felt was wrong?  Or you were a little uncomfortable with a task because it came dangerously close to crossing a line towards being illegal or immoral.  Or realized there were some hokey things going on that weren’t quite above board?  You were uncomfortable because your integrity was being challenged, and that feeling was perfectly normal.  Your values, your inner conscious was telling you to STOP and not cross that line.


Definition: a person’s principles or standards of behavior; one’s judgment of what is important in life.

Synonyms:  principles, ethics, moral code, morals, standards, code of behavior

Now that you’ve read the definition, doesn’t it make sense that you didn’t want to proceed?  So what did you do about it?  You knew the directive was wrong and potentially what the right path should have been, but maybe you were unsure whether you should say something to your boss.

An alternative could be to just hide in your office and hope the issue goes away.

Let me know how that works out for you.

Or, let’s say you did some research and found an alternative solution and presented it to your management, explaining the issue and why the original solution was a problem.  Kudos to you for doing the right thing.  But what if your boss or the company management says no?  Do you let it slide because you at least tried to make them see the error of their ways?

This is where your choices come into play.  You have the choice to do what you believe is right.  The organization also has the choice to proceed or change.  Then it’s up to you to decide whether you want to stay or go.


This is an ostrich, and no, he isn’t going to put his head in the sand since they don’t really do that… but the point is, neither should you. Pretending that something illegal, immoral, or just plain wrong isn’t happening doesn’t make it go away.   When your intuition tells you something is wrong, listen to it.  You have gut instincts for a reason, your intuition helps keep you from harm.  It knows what your values really are even if unconsciously.

Everyone has values they live by, although you may not think about them very much.  They are always there just the same, and when compromised they cause us stress.  Working in an environment like that isn’t fun, it isn’t healthy, and it can potentially cause harm.

If any of this hits home for you and you want to discuss options, let me know.

mailto: terry2thrive@gmail.com

To book a free 30 minute consultation: https://www.timetrade.com/book/7VS8H


It’s a new year, now what?

It’s a new year and you keep hearing questions about your resolutions or about what you want to do differently.  You’ve heard this over and over ad nauseam…  So I’d like to change it up a bit.

What does the start of a new year have to do with changing your life?  Why should you set goals or create your visions at that time?  Why does January 1 have that kind of power?  Who cares if you take control of your life on January 1st or June 15th or November 30th?

The best time to take control of your life is always NOW.  You should be thinking about your future, your vision for your career, and your goals for your life ANYTIME it’s convenient for you to do so.  That means if you realize that you’re not happy with something in your life, take control and do something about it.  Not on January 1, when you think you can get around to it, NOW.

Well, what are you waiting for?  Do you love your career or is it just a job?  Is it some place you go 5 days a week in order to get a check to pay the bills?  Is that the type of job you want for your future?

How about your daily life?  Are you happy where you are right now?  Are you living the way you’d like with the people you’d like to be with?  It’s been said before and I’ll say it again: like attracts like.  That means if you find yourself surrounded by sad, depressed people, you’re probably like that too.  Smile more, laugh more, figure out what you enjoy and go do that.  Then check out the view and see if the people you’ve been hanging out with have changed too or if you’re hanging out with new people.

You are in control of your life and can change it whenever, wherever you’d like.

If you can’t see how to do what you’d like in your life or career, call me.  I can be your accountability partner to help you develop a career plan and then keep you on track so you realize the successes you were meant to achieve.

What does your tomorrow look like?



The Art of Forgiveness

The art of forgiveness or letting go takes work and time, but in the end relieves stress by taking an enormous amount of weight off your shoulders.

My motto is “change what you can, then move on”.  Everyone struggles with forgiving and letting go.  Even Coaches.  It took me a long time to realize that getting the last word in or staying mad didn’t change anything.  I really didn’t feel better, or right, or more superior.  I was just mad, holding onto something that only I felt…  I decided that if I really looked at what was causing the issue it was usually my perception of a wrong; the other person may not have realized they had caused an issue at all, or if they did and it was intentional, why did I care anyway?  If someone was intentionally hurting me why would I want to be friends with them?  Hence the MOVE ON piece.

Our anger is in our own mind, not necessarily someone else’s.

Forgiveness: is a feeling first, and then, but not always, an action.  A feeling of forgiveness feels like a sense of release.  Letting go is about you, not the other person.  It doesn’t make the other person right or wrong, it doesn’t mean condoning a situation or behavior, it doesn’t mean agreement, it simply means you’ve decided that YOU can move on.  It means you’ve released your anger about something beyond your control.

In a recent study at Harvard  researchers found that practicing forgiveness reduces pain, improves heart health and increases happiness levels.  Forgiveness is one of the most powerful practices for transformation.

I’m challenging you to think about your relationships and any potential grudges you’ve been holding onto for so very long.  How has that anger or grudge served you?  How would it feel to LET IT GO and move on?

If you’re ready to move on and want some help give me a shout.  410.804.1954 or terry2thrive@gmail.com


Radio show

Take the Leap

A couple of weeks ago I was asked if I wanted to be on a talk radio show.  My initial response was a resounding YES.  I felt pretty good about it until the email came in with instructions.  They wanted a bio, some questions that I would want to answer in order to lead a discussion, a link to my website, and a phonetic spelling of my name if it was unusual.  DellaVecchia, yup, I guess my name qualifies as a bit hard to navigate.

Hmmm, what did I get my self into?  What was I feeling about my decision and what was I afraid of?  Maybe I wouldn’t be good enough, I was worried that I wouldn’t have the answers to questions.  What if I failed?  I actually put off sending my email response for a couple of days until I realized that I already had a bio… It’s on my website, my Noomii page (coaching referral service), on Yelp… it’s actually all over the internet in some form or another.

So what was my hold up?  There wasn’t one.  I love talking to people, and I love talking about coaching.  This talk show just happened to combine both, plus I get to potentially direct the conversation.  OK, feeling better and better.  My fear raised my awareness, which is fine, but I didn’t let it stop my progress.

I can do this.

I sent in my bio and a list of 4 questions ranging from how I got into coaching to how my niche found me.  I then put it out of my mind until the day of the show.  Why worry about something that hasn’t happened yet and of which I really had no control.  After all, it’s just a conversation between two people.

I was instructed to dial in about 5 minutes prior to our scheduled time, which was at 12:30, so I was working on some client business when an URGENT email popped up from the Admin of Money For Lunch.  Could I dial in early for my segment?  Instead of 12:30 they wanted me at 10:00.

At 9:55 I dialed in and listened to the wrap up of the previous show.  10:00 on the dot, I hear Bert announce the show and introduce….. not me.  Oops, what the heck is happening?  I check email again and low and behold, another message from the Admin.  Sorry, wrong time it’s really 11:30.

OK. I email back and ask if she is sure. Yes, she promises it’s the right time now.

At 11:25 I dial in again and hear Bert ending his previous show.  A couple minutes later he introduced me. Yay!  And monumentally mispronounced my last name!  So much for phonetics.  We had a great conversation and I have to admit that I totally enjoyed myself.  The questions I sent didn’t matter a whit.  We just talked and it went wherever it went. We spoke about career coaching, my background in IT and International management.  And most importantly, we discussed why my coaching is different.

I explained that I coached to my client’s strengths, their likes, and their passion.  From that base I help them realize the career path that will make them happy.  I also help them with their resume and social media.  As a career coach you can’t just have straight up career conversations and then walk away when someone needs assistance with matching a resume to a job description.

And by the way, I would do another interview again in a heartbeat.

As a coach I’ve learned to take the leap, don’t let fear of something stop you from moving forward. Fear is a very normal reaction, it’s what we do after we recognize it that matters.  If you want some help facing your fears send me an email Terry2thrive@gmail.com  or give me a call 410.804.1954.

If you want to listen to my session here’s the link…


It’s Money For Lunch and the show was held on 12/11/15, you may have to scroll down to find the episode with my name on it.


Career Challenges

How about that boss that has you report the same information in 3 different formats because he can’t make up his mind or really doesn’t know what he is looking for… Think Powerpoint, spreadsheet, Mindmap. Lions, tigers, and bears, oh my! What an incredible waste of time, not to mention frustrating. And that’s just a piece of your boss’ incompetence.


Or the job you’ve just been transitioned to that sounded fabulous. Right up your alley, hits your strengths, plus a bit challenging, and working with people you respect. You’re thrilled to say yes and get started. You hit the ground running, get a few quick wins then tackle the harder stuff. Uh oh, now comes the pile on. They back the truck up, you hear a beep, beep, beep and bam they unload it at your office door. Here’s the rub, you did so well that the senior leadership added more to your plate. They added some long term strategic visioning (not in your wheelhouse). Added an offshore project, and for good measure let’s make you chair person of a steering committee. You were successful, now you’re not. You’re overloaded, frustrated, and maybe acquired a bit of self-doubt that you never had before.

Ok, a couple of interesting scenarios, but why am I describing these problems?

Would you be happy if you were either of these workers? I think I hear a resounding NO. Of course not, you’d be miserable and rightfully so. Well the point is that you can either be miserable and plod on, or do something about it.

Believe it on not, both those scenarios are very real and they happened to me. I loved my career and the company I worked for until I didn’t. And when I realized that I no longer respected my boss or his boss for that matter, I lost engagement, passion, and enjoyment. I hated going to work. It wasn’t fun any longer and that made me sad.

With some help from a co-worker I saw a different view of my strengths and talents. I have always liked working with people, helping smooth the way, mentor, coaching, etc. and as I went from Supervisor to Manager to Director, I mentored and coached more and more and was sought out to do just that. It became apparent to me that switching careers was the right thing to do. So I did.

I jumped ship after giving a month notice. I tested the waters by going as a guest to a Professional Coaching school and had an AH HA moment that first weekend in class. Low and behold, knock me down with a feather… I realized that I really enjoy trying to figure out how to help people and I’ve been told that I’m good at it. Wow, I want to be a coach!

I think I can, I think I can, I know I can, I know I can!

I am.

I enrolled (and coughed up the big bucks… gulp); I graduated, got my certification as a Professional Coach as well as certified in an Energy Leadership assessment tool so that I can help others stay engaged and passionate about their lives and careers. I know how to cut through the stuff that’s bothering people, I understand and have first hand knowledge about corporate America, and I have great tools in my repertoire.

I was plenty nervous starting my own coaching business; it’s a scary endeavor. Yet I did it and I’m THRIVING!

Thrive Life Coaching, Inc.

So take a tip from me; it’s important that you enjoy what you do every day, because when you don’t it affects your mind, body, and heart.

If any of this resonates with you, I’m here, ready and able to work with you. I can help you fulfill your dream and thrive; you are worth it!

Career Playbook

I kind of liked that title because I want to start my blog as more than a tips and tricks place. I want it to be interactive. I’ll write stuff that you can use and I want my readers to tell me what they think. I’ll be adding resume information, interview tips and all kinds of career advice. Tell me what you’re looking for and I’ll come up with the information to help you succeed.

Unhappy work